Recent "down"

I mentioned the ups and downs of us having moved here. I think I'm currently navigating through a "down". We're amidst a negotiation (well, a lop-sided one, we are clearly not bidding high enough for the seller so it's almost moot) on a house in Concord. Since we had always been targeting Lexington as "our town", I am still getting used to our recent decision to expand our search to Concord. It has made be reevaluate aspects of picking a place to live that I didn't expect to, like ethnic diversity and proximity to errand shopping. I think I have come to a point for indecision for the two towns -- they both have different pros and cons that if we find a house in one town, I might at first feel disappointed that we didn't live in the other, but then I'll remember the "cons" and then be okay with living in the first. And vice versa. Maybe this is a good place to be because in my mind we can't lose. But there's also a weird feeling of we can't win either.

Through all of this is a fact that keeps hitting me square in the face: we have no friends. I make it sound much more pathetic than it is because we do have old friends around and have gotten together with some of them and for that I'm really grateful. It's just that without a routine and a permanent home base, there are no friends that I would see on a daily or even regular basis, like at school, a small group meeting, at the Y or at church. Especially for Concord, it's hard to imagine life there without knowing a single person who lives there. We know several people in Lexington and I figured if they live there, I could too. But Concord? I've only talked to a friend of a friend who just moved there last year. Otherwise, all other attempts to "hang out" in Concord have just left me wondering whether we'd fit in.